Water play with my boys…

How does a mother (one who is recovering from a recent surgery) keep two energetic nearly four year old twin boys engaged on a hot day when she is on her own with them, with one hand tied up in a sling? The nanny we hired to help me out for the summer failed us miserably and we had to fire her (long story). So, I was on my own with the boys all of this week. Yesterday was particularly challenging because it was a hot day. Taking them to a pool or a beach by myself seemed a bit daunting. So, we set up our own car wash/science lab on our driveway. I brought out some water beads and paint balls for extra fun, gave them scrubbing brushes, plastic ladles and spray bottles, had them change into their bathing suits and gave them turns with the garden hose. I changed into a bathing suit also and played paint balls with them for a bit. Then, I sat in the shade with a book, watching them and helping them resolve their conflicts. They helped me with the set up and also the clean up afterwards. There were some crazy moments here and there (a preschooler with a garden hose could get crazy) but overall everybody had a good time. They were exhausted and went down easily for their afternoon naps which gave me some quiet time.

We did not start our day this way though. We started our day with several meltdowns and power struggles all around because I was not in the right frame of mind. A self imposed quiet break for just a few mins helped me realize that I really need to put my anxiety about whether or not I will be able to take care of them on my own with my hand in a sling, on the shelf and take things as they come. Once I became mindful of my own role in the power struggles and the negative energy that I am spreading around because of my own anxiety, I was able to give my full attention to the problems that came up as they came up and resolve them to the best of my abilities without indulging in controlling behaviors. Besides, my boys are being very compassionate and respectful of the fact that their mom is still recovering, so after a few deep breaths and a little pep talk I realized that I don’t have much to be anxious about to begin with. Ultimately, I can never spend enough time with my kids ❤️

Post Op Diaries…

My first book outlet haul…These beauties arrived recently, just in time to celebrate my four weeks post op milestone. I will admit, I spent quite a bit of my money on books to get me through various stages of this surgery (pre-op and post-op). This was supposed to be my final reward. I am staying away from book shopping for a while now. I am not making any promises though.

They say when the going gets tough, the tough get going. It’s been a tough week with the recovery as my hand gets stiff and tired by the middle of the day. The nanny that we hired to help me with the boys during my recovery period turned out to be utterly unfit for the job (a long story) so we had to fire her unexpectedly. The result of this is, I resumed my mommy duties full time this week and it’s not been easy as far as my recovery goes. I start out feeling great in the morning but my arm is tired and painful by the afternoon. I try to keep the afternoons simple until my husband comes home from work.

The boys keep telling me that they love spending time with their mama. They shower me with random hugs and kisses through out the day. They have also been telling me in their own ways that they are getting impatient with my hand being in the sling for so long. It’s been a tough week both mentally and physically but I know that I will never regret the time that I spend with my kids. Overall, I refuse to get sucked into the negativity barring a few moments of despair scattered around mostly in the evenings. There is so much in my life that I am thankful for, no matter what circumstances I am in. This too shall pass…

The Froggy Book Series by Jonathan London…

We have recently discovered the froggy book series, written by Jonathon London. We already read four books in this series and loved them all. Froggy is a silly, clumsy, funny little guy who makes silly mistakes and learns from them. ‘Froggy Goes To Dinner’ is our favorite book in this series. My boys had me read it to them almost every day while we had it checked out from the library.

We are slowly transitioning out of picture books over here and this series fits right into that transition space. With simple stories, a silly/fun main character, the right amount of text and colorful pictures, this turned out to be a great book series to read aloud to my nearly four year olds.