“They May have wanted relationships, but they didn’t have the skills…Besides being the breadwinner, often the father had only one other role: rule enforcer. Distant fathers were generally perceived as more rigid than mothers, less understanding, and less willing to listen….These distant fathers were often well-meaning but inept. They worked long hours and had less time and energy for the hard work of connecting with adolescents….Some distant fathers had more than a skill or time deficit. Because of their socialization to the male role, they did not value the qualities necessary to stay in close long-term relationships. They labeled nurturing and empathizing as wimpy behavior, and related to their daughters in cold, mechanical ways.” . ~Mary Pipher & Sara Gilliam, Reviving Ophelia 25th Anniversary Edition. .
Insightful words from my #currentread ❤️. Patriarchy, unfortunately, automatically produces a lot of well-intended but distant fathers for obvious reasons 😔