I personally feel the need to erase certain words and phrases like ‘tattletelling’ and ‘seeking attention’ from our vocabularies as parents when we refer to our children’s behaviors because there is a lot of stigma attached to these phrases that could be detrimental to fostering that deeper connection with our children. This may seem like a small thing but as a wise man that I know said to me, ‘every small thing ultimately leads to something big.’ It is these small changes in our daily lives that add up to bring bigger changes ultimately 🙏🏼 .
Here are a few more insightful snippets from this article (link to full article at the bottom): .
“As teachers know all too well, where there are multiple kids, there will be tattling, a.k.a. telling someone about the alleged wrongdoing of another. Preschool teachers in particular face a constant stream of reports on the wrong-doing of others, from the rule-enforcing “Kristin’s chewing gum” to the plea for justice “Ellis took my truck.” One study found that “tattling represents the majority of talk about peers’ behavior to their parents,” which can drive anyone batty. And yet, resorting to a silencing “Don’t tell” or the shame-inducing “No one likes a tattletale” is just a bad idea for everyone.” .
“If the endgame for parents is making sure our kids feel that we are safe and available harbors for all kinds of information, then maybe it’s time to simply erase the word “tattle” from our vocabularies. We can replace it with something a bit more dull, but perhaps ultimately more helpful for keeping the lines of honest communication open, like: having conversations about concerns. It’s not as catchy as “Don’t squeal unless it’s a big deal,” but it just might get us from preschool through the teen years with open communication intact.” .
Link to this thoughtful and insightful article from greatschools,.org: .