“Playful Parenting is a way to enter the child’s world, on the child’s terms, in order to foster closeness, confidence, and connection.”
“The fact is, we adults don’t have much room in our lives for fun and games. Our days are filled with stress, obligations, and hard work. We may be stiff, tired, and easily bored when we try to get on the floor and play with children — especially when it means switching gears from a stressful day at work or household chores….Others of us may be unable to put aside our competitiveness or our need to be in control. We get bored, cranky, and frustrated; we’re sore losers, we worry about teaching how to throw the ball correctly when our child just wants to play catch. We complain about children’s short attention spans, but how long can we sit and play marbles or barbies or monopoly or fantasy games, before we get bored and distracted, or pulled away by the feeling that getting work done or cooking dinner is more important?”
“But sometimes children do not connect or reconnect so easily. They may feel so isolated that they retreat into a corner, or come out aggressively with both arms swinging. They may be annoying, obnoxious or downright infuriating as they try desperately to signal us that they need more connection. These situations call for creating more playtime, not doling out punishment or leaving the lonely child all alone.”
“I’m always amazed when adults say that children ‘just did that to get attention.’ Naturally children who need attention will do all kinds of things to try to get it. Why not just give it to them?”
Inspiring and thought provoking words by Lawrence J. Cohen, author of Playful Parenting (my current read).