“It’s not our job to toughen our children up to face a cruel and heartless world. It’s our job to raise children who will make the world a little less cruel and heartless.” ~L.R.Knost
Being supportive and compassionate towards our kids does not make them less resilient, it actually makes them more resilient. Deliberately throwing kids into stressful situations and expecting them to deal with such situations without any complaints does not teach them resilience. It only teaches them to suppress their real feelings and put up an act, just to get the parent’s approval. Eventually, kids raised in this manner are more likely to grow up into adults who are unable to communicate their needs or express their feelings in a healthy manner. Resilience can be taught naturally via life’s events, by being compassionate towards our kids, by always prioritizing connection with our kids, by supporting our kids as they navigate challenging situations and by raising them with a growth mindset so that they don’t give up easily for the fear of failure.