I don’t want to raise obedient kids…

Case in point: German people during Hitler’s Nazi era.

“I think our challenge as parents is to rise above that preference for the child of least resistance and to think beyond short-term success as a criterion—particularly if success is defined by conventional and insipid standards. Don’t we want our kids to be inspiring rather than spend their lives just collecting tokens (grades, money, approval)? Don’t we want them to think in the plural rather than focusing only on what will benefit them personally? Don’t we want them to appraise traditions with fresh eyes and raise questions about what seems silly or self-defeating or oppressive, rather than doing what has always been done just because it’s always been done?” ~Alfie Kohn

“Obedient children grow into obedient adults. They’re less likely to stand up for themselves and more likely to be taken advantage of. They’re also capable of simply following orders without question, without taking responsibility for their actions.” ~Psychology Today

“Morality is doing what’s right no matter what you’re told. Obedience is doing what you’re told no matter what’s right.” – H.L. Mencken

By being mindful as parents in our daily lives; by always making connection with our children the top most priority in every parenting challenge that we encounter; by being compassionate, loving, respectful and empathic towards our children at all times, even when they misbehave (more so when they misbehave); I believe we can raise children who are creative, empathic, resilient, respectful, independent and cooperative. It’s a lot of work but the end result is a gift to humanity and is certainly worth the effort. The price is high, the rewards are great.

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