“Stay away from people who can’t take responsibility for their actions and who make you feel bad for being angry at them when they do you wrong” – Anonymous
This makes a lot of sense to me and hopefully to my kids too, when they are able to fully comprehend the meaning behind it. I happened to read these powerful words somewhere recently and they resonated with me deeply.
What if an entire culture and society expects a certain segment of population (women and children in general), who are at the lower end of the hierarchy, to do just the opposite, and grin and bear the abuse, as if nothing happened? THIS is how patriarchy and authoritative parenting work. Even the most educated adults, who had the opportunity to see and experience the world, subscribe to these norms, just because it’s easy and convenient for them. It’s time to break these norms. It’s time to stop this cycle of abuse from being passed on to future generations. I am saying ‘No More’ and I don’t care anymore who gets upset with my stance.
Humanity over culture. Always. Respect, love and acceptance. Always. No matter who I am dealing with, an adult or a child. These are my core values and I am sticking to them, no matter what. These are the values that I hope to pass on to my kids also.