Let’s talk body boundaries, consent & respect…

I really, really liked this book. It talks about consent and respect. It teaches kids direct, honest and straight forward communication even with the adults in their lives. It teaches them how to say ‘No’ when they need to, and also how to respect a ‘No’ from others when they hear it. It gives them alternate options to consider when they don’t want to give their consent to something but also don’t want to deny it fully. Like, for example, giving a hi five instead of a hug. It teaches them about body boundaries and how to respect their body boundaries as well as those of others. More importantly, it teaches them that they are the bosses of their bodies and what they say goes. The illustrations show a lot of diversity and are quite engaging. I will be reading this to my nearly 5 year olds many times for sure.

On Punishing Kids…

“Discipline is helping a child solve a problem. Punishment is making a child suffer for having a problem. To raise problem solvers, focus on solutions, not retribution.” ~LRKnost .

Wrong is wrong even if everyone is doing it. Right is right even if no one is doing it.” ~Augustine Hippo .

I am by no means an expert on this subject, but I have been bullied in my own life (even as an adult), thought long and hard about how to raise kids who don’t resort to bullying and manipulation in their adult lives, and came to the conclusion that as long as adults (parents or teachers or others guardians) who punish exist in my kids lives, my kids will continue to be confused about bullying. Respect cannot be taught to kids without actually modeling it to them. As a mother, I have learned that it’s not enough to just work hard to model respect to my kids at home and teach them to stand up against bullies. I also need to step up and fight those fights with the other adult bullies out there that my kids encounter some times in their daily lives, at least until they are old enough to advocate for themselves on their own. This is a hard thing to do and requires a lot of effort but then again nothing worthwhile comes easily in life, does it?